We are aware that you have recently experienced the tragic loss of one of your colleagues. This news has deeply affected us all, and I want to extend my deepest condolences to you during this incredibly difficult time.
The loss of a colleague is not just a professional loss but a personal one as well. We spend a significant portion of our lives with our coworkers who often become friends, and their absence leaves a void that is deeply felt. It is natural to experience a range of emotions, from shock and sadness to confusion and anger. Please know that these feelings are valid, and it is important to allow yourself the space and time to grieve.
Grief is a complex process, and everyone experiences it differently. You may go through several stages, including:
- Denial: This is often the initial reaction, where the reality of the loss is hard to accept.
- Anger: Feelings of frustration and helplessness can manifest as anger.
- Bargaining: You might find yourself dwelling on “what if” scenarios and wishing things could be different.
- Depression: Deep sadness and withdrawal from usual activities are common during this stage.
- Acceptance: Eventually, you may come to terms with the loss and find a way to move forward.
It’s important to remember that you might experience the various stages of grief in a completely different order or revisit certain stages multiple times. They can vary greatly from person to person.
In light of this tragedy, I want to remind you of the support resources that are available to you:
- AFAP Member Assistance Program (MAP): Our MAP offers confidential psychological services to help you navigate through this difficult time. Registered psychologists are available 24/7 to provide emotional support and grief counselling. Your preferred appointment time and method (in person, online or via telephone) can be arranged during booking. Call 1300 307 912.
- Peer Support: Sometimes, talking to a colleague who understands what you are going through can be incredibly helpful. We encourage you to lean on each other for support.
- Leave of Absence: If you feel that you need some time away from work to process this loss, please speak with your manager about taking a leave of absence. Ensure that you have the time and space you need to heal.
Additionally, here are some coping strategies that may help you during this time:
- Express Your Emotions: Whether through talking, writing, or creative outlets, expressing your feelings can be therapeutic.
- Seek Professional Help: Psychological assistance can provide a safe space to process your emotions.
- Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote your well-being, such as exercise, meditation, or undertaking activities you enjoy.
- Stay Connected: Lean on your support network of friends, family, and colleagues.
Please remember that you are not alone. We are here to help in whatever way we can. If you have any concerns or need additional support, please do not hesitate to reach out to the AFAP welfare team, email welfare@afap.org.au or call the Member Assistance Program directly on 1300 307 912.
With deepest sympathy,
Captain Darren Gray
AFAP Welfare Director